Moments with Me

The Simplest Moment making the Biggest Difference The following video is based on this previous video  

Is it possible for Stress to be Constructive?     The video below is based on the following post:     Took a moment to sit outside the doorway leading into the music / sound studio where I do recordings and videos for EQAFE. Can’t see here, but a gentle rain was falling, rain drops filling the air and blanketing the earth with a thin layer of water. After doing some recordings, I decided to take a moment with myself and nature, experiencing the new smells and sounds that come alive with the advent of rain. I realised when I was sitting there, breathing and having a moment w ... ith myself and the environment that it had started becoming natural for me to take moments throughout my day – even if only for a minute: to breathe, slow down, ‘gather my thoughts’ if you will…as I in the past tended to RUSH in my mind and so RUSH in my movements from one moment to the next, which eventually contributed to a mental and physical stress I was constantly in. With...

The Desire for Destruction vs the Credence to Create     Before watching the video below - please read the following blog, then watch the following video , as the video in this is blog is a follow up / continuation and expansion on the previous blog and video. Thank you.        

Do we really Understand and Live the Meaning of Creation? This video was inspired by and also an expansion of my previous post       

Absolutism vs. Self Trust The video below is an expansion on the following post: Absolutism and Self Trust: I’ve always looked at change in a way of perceiving it as a constant in the sense of “if / when change comes – whatever it may be, good or bad, I’ll be able to handle it”. When I’ve come to realise that in life – one cannot make such absolute statements. If you could predict your own future to the extent of being able to beforehand know EXACTLY what is going to happen with changes unfolding in your life, everything and everyone that will be involved and who you’ll be within it all, while at the same time being able to prepare yourself to handle it as best possible: then yes, you can make such absolute statements when it comes to life. But, even then, with predicting your own future, seeing it play out and preparing yourself for what is to come: there are MANY things that can play out differently in so many ways… The point here is that: you can want to pr...

The Possible vs. The Impossible The Possible vs. The Impossible: An interesting point opened up today regarding “what is possible and what is impossible”. I’ve time and time again been faced with people saying to me “trying to help people, let alone humanity and change this world – is impossible”.  Honestly, yes – I in such moments felt despair, because at the time, there were more people seeing through the eyes of what is impossible than looking through the eyes of the potential of what is possible. During this time my thoughts and experiences also ‘leaned’ towards the impossible…going into this experience of having to ‘fight’ for ‘what is possible’, the ‘potential’ of myself, others, humanity and this world. So, the more and more I was exposed to others seeing through the eyes of the impossible, the more an inner conflict ensued within me between the impossible and the possible…until I realised something: that this is what ALL of us / the MAJORITY of humanity...

Missing someone You miss someone who you’ve lost – either due to death / a break-up. You miss someone close to you who’s gone away for a while and you’ve been separated by time and space for longer than you’ve ever been. You may even have moments in a day where you miss a person when you walk by something that reminds them of you – even though you know you’re going to be seeing them at the end of the day. There are various moments and reasons for missing someone – and it is okay. What does compromise you, however – is when you either judge the fact that you’re missing someone and suppressing the experience or adding more emotion into the experience of missing someone, where the moment of ‘missing’ transmutes into an emotional experience of sadness, pain, loss, despair and even escalating into a depression. I have been through both extremes in my life – sometimes judging myself for missing someone, other times allowing the missing to become too emotional and there hav...

From Challenges to Breakthroughs - the Process of Self Change From clapping hands, to high-fives, to blowing kisses…now learning to do the fist bump with the word “boom” afterwards lol This little dude is learning so fast in this phase of his developmental process. What’s been standing out for me in his process of learning is how much and how fast he processes information. Sometimes he gets it immediately, especially when it’s something he hasn’t done before like the fist bump. Other times he takes some time, for instance: we tried show ing him how to eat spaghetti by holding the string with your lips and sucking it in – but he’d already become accustomed to using both hands and instead stuffing it in his mouth and has stuck to that…for the moment lol In observing his process I looked at process in general in terms of the extent to which we ingrained patterns of thinking, reacting and behaving - that it takes time to change them as they’ve become so much part of ...

When you THINK you know someone I’ve had so many moments in my life where I’d be in a conversation with someone and during the conversation I’d have thoughts come up judging the person in one way or another. Then I’d believe my judgmental thoughts about the person, define the person accordingly and this will determine my experience, words and actions towards them. Only to later realise / discover that my thoughts / judgments towards them were mere interpretations and in no way came CLOSE to who they were in a moment and were in fact the complete opposi. This especially stood out when I had a negative / emotional reaction towards the person and whatever was being discussed. When you start understanding your thoughts and emotions, you CLEARLY see in such moments how your own reactions towards a person causes you to misinterpret them, because you filter their words / the sound of their voice through your own reactions and so leading to creating assumptions / ideas of the ...

  Love and Chocolate: The Emotional Pacifier for Women...or Not? To all the ladies (and a ‘lil something for the gentleman): women’s emotions and how we act on them is often the headline of jokes (and sadly discrimination). I’ve found many things in relation to men and women’s varying characteristics are stigmatised / stereotyped through jokes / statements. Obviously, interestingly enough – dependent on who says it and how; most importantly whether you take it personally or not: will determine the experience of yourself in the moment. I myself, as a woman, have been exposed to many such moments, but no matter how it’s said: I don’t take it personally but rather understand the WHY an individual would look at things I do/say in a certain way and sometimes what I can learn from it. So, to the ladies (and gentlemen) when you find you’re being stereotyped / stigmatised for a ‘male’ / ‘female’ characteristic / ‘flaw’ – if you react / take it personally, introspect and see wh...