Moments with Me

A Journey with and through a Room How a room transformed me, my relationships and my life I am 31. This is my age, yes – but not my definition, my self definition. When you hear me, and within hearing me, also  know me – you will know that when I say “I am 31” I merely speak of age and time, not who I AM as a person within myself. I have for some time been exposed to individuals who define who they are according to age. “I am this / that age – I must be married, have kids, have a place of my own, be ready to retire…” and the list goes on… I oftentimes imagine seeing people who speak like this as a rat in a cage, running on a wheel – the wheel representing age and time, running in circles in their own minds and lives to catch up to time, yet not realising they are creating their relationship with time and age in their minds in the first place!!! Honestly, I have accepted and allowed myself to – (because of how some closest to me in my life, even those who I ha...

When is enough, enough? One thing in most of my life has been a constant: creating consequence. There was always an imbalance in this relationship between consequence, LEARNING from miss-takes and actually CHANGING within myself. I own up to the fact that even still, to this day, I make miss-takes and it does sometimes take me longer to fundamentally change what is needed. I ‘know’ within myself I have the ability and capacity to implement this transfer from problem to solution, from consequence to learning to changing much FASTER…yet have still accepted and allowed myself to substantiate ‘problems and consequence’ more within myself. Not realising that, I will face resistance to substantiate / focus more on solutions, on the process of learning and actually changing. Why Resistance? With change comes Resistance – especially change from ‘bad to good’ for some reason. Meaning, I oftentimes ask myself: why is it sooooooooooooooooo EASY to participate in emotions, to create con...

The Desire for Destruction vs the Credence to Create     Before watching the video below - please read the following blog, then watch the following video , as the video in this is blog is a follow up / continuation and expansion on the previous blog and video. Thank you.        

Absolutism vs. Self Trust The video below is an expansion on the following post: Absolutism and Self Trust: I’ve always looked at change in a way of perceiving it as a constant in the sense of “if / when change comes – whatever it may be, good or bad, I’ll be able to handle it”. When I’ve come to realise that in life – one cannot make such absolute statements. If you could predict your own future to the extent of being able to beforehand know EXACTLY what is going to happen with changes unfolding in your life, everything and everyone that will be involved and who you’ll be within it all, while at the same time being able to prepare yourself to handle it as best possible: then yes, you can make such absolute statements when it comes to life. But, even then, with predicting your own future, seeing it play out and preparing yourself for what is to come: there are MANY things that can play out differently in so many ways… The point here is that: you can want to pr...

The Possible vs. The Impossible The Possible vs. The Impossible: An interesting point opened up today regarding “what is possible and what is impossible”. I’ve time and time again been faced with people saying to me “trying to help people, let alone humanity and change this world – is impossible”.  Honestly, yes – I in such moments felt despair, because at the time, there were more people seeing through the eyes of what is impossible than looking through the eyes of the potential of what is possible. During this time my thoughts and experiences also ‘leaned’ towards the impossible…going into this experience of having to ‘fight’ for ‘what is possible’, the ‘potential’ of myself, others, humanity and this world. So, the more and more I was exposed to others seeing through the eyes of the impossible, the more an inner conflict ensued within me between the impossible and the possible…until I realised something: that this is what ALL of us / the MAJORITY of humanity...

From Challenges to Breakthroughs - the Process of Self Change From clapping hands, to high-fives, to blowing kisses…now learning to do the fist bump with the word “boom” afterwards lol This little dude is learning so fast in this phase of his developmental process. What’s been standing out for me in his process of learning is how much and how fast he processes information. Sometimes he gets it immediately, especially when it’s something he hasn’t done before like the fist bump. Other times he takes some time, for instance: we tried show ing him how to eat spaghetti by holding the string with your lips and sucking it in – but he’d already become accustomed to using both hands and instead stuffing it in his mouth and has stuck to that…for the moment lol In observing his process I looked at process in general in terms of the extent to which we ingrained patterns of thinking, reacting and behaving - that it takes time to change them as they’ve become so much part of ...