Missing someone You miss someone who you’ve lost – either due to death / a break-up. You miss someone close to you who’s gone away for a while and you’ve been separated by time and space for longer than you’ve ever been. You may even have moments in a day where you miss a person when you walk by something that reminds them of you – even though you know you’re going to be seeing them at the end of the day. There are various moments and reasons for missing someone – and it is okay. What does compromise you, however – is when you either judge the fact that you’re missing someone and suppressing the experience or adding more emotion into the experience of missing someone, where the moment of ‘missing’ transmutes into an emotional experience of sadness, pain, loss, despair and even escalating into a depression. I have been through both extremes in my life – sometimes judging myself for missing someone, other times allowing the missing to become too emotional and there hav...
I'm a Recovering WANT Addict My pup Stout a few years ago I overheard someone say "I WANT that puppy!" when looking through photographs of puppies. The context was playful, because they do have animals of their own already, but expressed the words so as to emphasize the puppies cuteness and appreciation of them. This opened up an interesting point within me when I heard the words "I WANT that puppy!", the sound in which it was said together with the facial expressions. It took me back to my childhood as well as looking at myself, relationships and life in the present. I looked at how, as children - we were so quick to say "I WANT" due to not having any education / understanding of responsibilities and obligations tied to money and practicality. Interestingly enough, this is a hole we may be still fall into that we dig for ourselves to this day… Let me share and show what I mean with the above. The moment the individual spoke the...
Help! Nervousness ruined my Moment! I have faced moments in my life where (and this especially when it came to asking people something / talking to them about a certain topic / issue) I would become REALLY nervous, anxious and fearful – building up so much emotional energy about it inside myself, that I eventually give up and decide not to ask / speak up. This caused me to suppress many things inside myself, keep my head bowed down, mostly staying out of people’s way and just being / doing how I perceived / interpreted they expected me to be in relation to them. Even though I may observe things and experience things about them and me in relation to them – I would keep quiet and bottle things up inside…All of this lead to much insecurity and inferiority inside of me in relation to people – activating the ‘pleasing character’, waiting for things to happen / unfold in my relationship to others or trying my best to ignore / suppress what I see, observe and experience. Now...
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